A person’s name is to that person the sweetest and most important sound in any language
Why it is important to remember people's names
Don’t you think that it’s important to remember a person’s
name? Especially if you are going to meet that person every once a while,
either by chance or with purpose. I never seriously tried to remember anyone’s
name before I read this book, partly because I was shy and quite. I rarely went
out to meet new people, and when I did, I would most likely forget the person’s
name. I used to wash dishes in a Vietnamese restaurant for a year, and I never
remembered some of my co-workers’ names, even though we were working together
every week. My friend, how do you feel if people don’t remember your name,
especially when they meet you quite often? You might feel a bit offended right?
You might feel that they don’t really care about you, or that they don’t value
you as an important person to them. Particularly, when you meet someone once a
while and you remember their name, but they don’t remember your name, you might
feel kind of worthless. This has a negative impact on your self-image and
confidence. That’s how I felt for a long time. If you are looking for job opportunities, it's even more important that you remember people's names, since those people might be able to refer you to the person who makes the decision to hire. Also, when you meet the recruiter, you make a good impression on them by remembering their name. It's pretty awkward to not remember people's names right? See the video below, haha!
Here is a method that is helping me to remember people's names
After I read this book, I made a decision to really put
effort into remembering people’s names. Whenever I meet a new person, I will
ask for their name and repeat it several times during our conversation. That
way, their name can become part of my memory. If they are someone who I really
want to keep in touch and follow up with, I will also write down their name in
a small pad, as well as what I can remember about them during our conversation.
This allows me to remember not only their name, but also their hobby, work, and
education…etc. Next time I meet them, I can repeat what we talk about last time
and extend our conversation from there. More important, by remembering their
name and their basic information, I make a good impression on them and show
them that I really value the relationship. In addition, if you put effort into
remembering someone’s name, they are more likely to put effort into remembering
your name as well. You also help enhance their self-image and confidence by
remembering their name, since it makes them feel important. I have probably
doubled my number of friends using these methods. We all want to feel
important! See the video below for more tips:
Forgive yourself and others
The last thing I want to talk about is to forgive others if
they don’t remember your name, and forgive yourself if you forget someone’s
name. We are all human after all. It’s just impossible for us to remember
everyone’s name. If you meet someone and they forgot your name, they might just
be a type of person who talks to many people on a daily basis, and it’s very
hard for them to remember you if you didn’t build a strong connection with them
during the conversation. Or they might be a type of person who is not really
good at dealing with people, and they might be shy and quite. That’s okay,
those people need your help. You should still try to remember their name to help
them feel better about themselves. They might be very interesting people to
talk to if you get to know more about them. If they meet you more often, they
might ask you: “How do you know so many people?”. You can tell them: “Just by
remembering their name!”. If you forget someone’s name, that’s okay. But try to
ask for their name again, you can say something like: “I’m sorry. You are a nice person to talk to, but I forgot your name. What’s your name again?”.
After they leave, you can repeat their name several times quietly so that you
can remember.
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